Site Guidelines

 

Welcome!

It is important to have a safe community where all are welcome. Listed below are the guidelines for the forums. Thank you for helping to keep our site safe. We hope to see you in the forums soon!

Be Supportive - We want all who enter these rooms to feel safe and supported. Please remember that we are all survivors, each at a different point in our healing.

Be Respectful - Gossip or talking about another person is not appropriate and it will not be tolerated.

Be Honest and Trustworthy - Trust can be a difficult issue for many survivors of abuse and other trauma. Be worthy of our members’ trust.

Respect Boundaries - Boundaries are very critical for most abuse survivors and essential to recovery. It is important that survivors learn how to set and enforce their own boundaries.

Use Self Care – It is important to take responsibility for yourself, recognize your own triggers, and develop healthy coping strategies.

Breaking any of the safety rules may lead to a warning or immediate ban from the forums!

The site Admins and Mods are here to keep the site safe for everybody. Please listen to and follow their instructions. If you have any concerns; please contact the site admins via email.

Don’t give out your full name, address, phone number, or any identifiable information.

Under no circumstances may any adult member of this site arrange an off-line meeting with any minor in our community; this will result in an immediate ban.

There is a forum designated specifically for teens so as they may chat amongst themselves, this is not intended in any way to divide them from adults or the rest of the board,  to join this forum you can submit your application through your user-cp (control panel).  Please contact an Admin if you have any difficulties or questions.

There is to be absolutely no cybersex or porn at this site.

Do not use the word admin, host or mod in your nickname. Admins will appear in Red letters, and Mods are green in the user list.

Do not come into the room under the influence of alcohol or drugs, if you are found to be under the influence you will be asked to leave and may receive a warning.

Do not threaten suicide or self-injury. We are not equipped to deal with crises of this nature. Please contact your local crisis hotline instead, Talking about feelings and coping strategies is Ok, but threats of carrying out those actions are not allowed here.

Off Site Contact:

Off site contact between members is strongly discouraged and as we are unable to monitor this we advise members that you do so at your own risk. While we endeavour to ensure our site is as safe as possible for each member there is always the risk that an ill intentioned person may access our site and attempt to get you to join them off site. We advise that if you still wish to make off site with another member don't do so until you have known them for at least 6 months. Do not give out any personal information such as your full real name, your home address, contact numbers, etc. to anyone you don't know.

No adult member of our site is to attempt to make off site contact with another member who is under 18 years of age; this is for the safety of both parties. Should you be found to have made off site contact with a minor you will be banned with immediate effect pending review of the situation.

Active Abuse:

If you or someone you know is experiencing active abuse we advise that you contact the authorities or find a way to stop the abuse as soon as possible, speak to someone you trust or go to a safe place and seek help. 

Please note: If you are under 18 years of age and in active abuse we may be required by law to report the situation to the authorities, if you need assistance in reporting abuse contact a site admin or mod and they will help point you in the right direction.

Religious Guidelines:

We realize that religion can be very important in healing for many survivors. As such, you are free to reference your religious beliefs and their influence in your healing. Please however, be aware that religious discussions can get out of hand rather quickly and they need to be handled sensitively. We ask that you not mention religion when not pertaining to your healing. Examples of not following the guidelines:

• Being overly preaching.

• Telling people what they "should" believe.

• Not respecting someone's views and beliefs.

Subscribing to whatever you believe in is exactly that, it's what YOU believe in. What's right for one, may not be right for another. It's all a matter of choice. We are all survivors, who come from many different paths. Be respectful. Because religion can be a sensitive subject, please be aware of others' personal boundaries and beliefs and reserve religious discussions for the "Religious Beliefs" folder in the Forums. It is for all beliefs and views. If a situation arises where the topic becomes hostile or triggering, please exercise self-care. Try to use statements like, "this is what I believe" rather than, "it is a fact" when putting forward your opinions.

If you feel you have not been respected, or feel that someone has "gone over the line", please feel free to email one of the admins at admin@betrayedboys.com  so we may address it accordingly. 

Please enjoy your time here with us  and we look forward to meeting you all on the forums